Thread: Ask Dr. Ecchi

Yeah that's the way to go.

Originally Posted by Chadt826

lol the best way is the tell her that she isn't meat, and a person. Also before the deed is started, stare her in the eye or eyes and tell her you love her even if you don't.... shame on you and u just want to have sex with her shame... but ya.... and i will add don't be her friend, be her lover... friends don't get any, lovers do. Make sure she knows that u care for her... but don't go out and buy something just simply tell her that you care for her or worry about her ect... blah blah.... than when u are doing le deedo make sure u kiss her passionatly cause, if u just go down stairs first shes going to hate u...

Here's a tip for you guys : saying "I love you" just before intercourse might work with a quite young or inexperiented girl... but if she's more of a women, there's a big chance she won't take you seriously. It gets tiring after a while, since it's maybe the most used trick to get a woman into bed.
The important thing, if you want to sleep with a girl (with or without love, that's not the point here), is trust. If she trusts you, you'll surely get what you want.

So if you want to do it again, say it the next morning while bringing her breakfast in bed, it feels much more trustworthy.

All that aside, since there is a few quite youg people here, I'd like to say that these tips shouldn't be used in the beginning of your sexual life. In this hard time, the thing you should rely on is honesty. If you don't, I see a lot of troubles in your future relationships.
And even if it may seem the easiest way, lying to get a woman into bed is not the greatest way, because she will surely realize it one day.

The L word in bed is like a bomb. So handle with care.

Only the biggest A**HOLE or B*TCH (it works the same for both sexes) would toy with another person's feelings in order to get them to bed.

And for those of you "players" out there, I have noticed that this is one field in which payback is certain and it is a motherf***er.

Rant aside, why would you bother soiling yourself (in the end the person most hurt is the perpetrator) for what in the end is an empty pleasure.

Sex without respect and trust is pointless, a poor replacement for masturbation. NOTE that I am not saying love, because you don't have to love the person you have sex with (I always found it helps), you just have to respect them and trust them, and they you (its a two way street with respect and trust).

I agree with everything that's been said.
But if there is a lot of "A**HOLE" like you said, who would use love as a way to get a person into bed, it's something less common with girls, since we are generally afraid that the L word might frighten the guy.
Girls also have the chance that there's generally no need to lie on this subject to get a guy into bed (height, weight, breast size, virginity, etc... that's enough to lie about for us girls ).
I know that some girls toy with their partner anyway, as some guys do... I think those persons are sad and not very smart, but hey, what can we do ?

There are so much things to say to get someone in bed, true things, there's no need to lie !
Cause if you don't think the other person is attractive, funny, smart, or just too damn sexy, just go back home and give yourself a little treat, at least no one would be hurt and you could still respect yourself.

To ikhea:
Just to clarify, I said "toy with a person's feelings" which is a far bigger field.

You are right it is different between boys and girls. Boys usually lie to get a girl into bed and once they get tired dump her. Girls usually lie to get a guy into bed (or not, sometimes a tease is just as effective) as part of a greater entrapment (economic support, bragging rights, marriage, etc.). And the lies used are different for each sex. This is the reason why I used the terms A**HOLES for boys and B*TCHES for girls, the pain caused on the victim is the same but the methods and reasons of the perpetrator are usually different.

And we both agree on the final point, if you can't do it the right way for the right reason, self-service is the best alternative.

Originally Posted by ikhea

Here's a tip for you guys : saying "I love you" just before intercourse might work with a quite young or inexperiented girl... but if she's more of a women, there's a big chance she won't take you seriously. It gets tiring after a while, since it's maybe the most used trick to get a woman into bed.
The important thing, if you want to sleep with a girl (with or without love, that's not the point here), is trust. If she trusts you, you'll surely get what you want.

So if you want to do it again, say it the next morning while bringing her breakfast in bed, it feels much more trustworthy.

All that aside, since there is a few quite youg people here, I'd like to say that these tips shouldn't be used in the beginning of your sexual life. In this hard time, the thing you should rely on is honesty. If you don't, I see a lot of troubles in your future relationships.
And even if it may seem the easiest way, lying to get a woman into bed is not the greatest way, because she will surely realize it one day.

yea... i don;t really have much exp with women that are older, probly be cause i don't hit on anything with legs. I am in college and i was given an more younger person experience. Now i can't really tell you how to score with someone thirty something or older except having money and charm might help. So yea i was just drawing from my high school college exp about it.

yea... lets get back on topic. with the sex tips. Not how to build up some self esteem to ask a girl out.

there's no use for sex tips if you don't have someone in your bed to practice all tose theories with...

Therefore everyone get hitched.