Thread: Friends

Do you have them? What are the rules to your friendships? Its a strange question but in the spirit of not-life-blogging here I'll ask an in an open ended way before I get to the point.

I have lots of people I call friends but really mean acquaintances. And a few really truly close friends.
Chiza is probably one of my best friends as sad as it is to say that about my own sis,


rules....
Complicated. I have basic things that will make me (subconsciously even) back away from friendships.
No Homophobia -- but that can and has been enlightened/changed with some already.
No home wreakers -- girls or guys who deliberately set out to take other people's partners drive me insane.
No two-faced people -- a guys guy or girlie girl is fine just don't ignore me or change personalities with each different group of friends!

Can't think of any others right now

My facebook says that I have lot of friends!

Comfort and trust. These two have recently become much more important to me in what I consider to be real friends aka ones that aren't a chore, people that I trust to help me and will let me help them back. Oddly enough this are more based on instinct for me, there's an instinctive trust or comfort with some people, sometimes it takes a while to feel or understand. Basically I need to trust what that person says and trust that they won't hide things and trust that they will tell me when I need to back off.

Eh, I find people that you can relax fully around/be yourself to th truest extent to make the best friends and it's something I value more and more as I get older/ understand myself better.

.... whoops sorry for the length.

Originally Posted by StealDragon

Do you have them? What are the rules to your friendships?

Between my friends and I... I guess the best I can say on the subject of having friends and rules is... don't get upset that you weren't in contact for a month (or years)? Like, I have friends, but I see them all really infrequently... we don't meet up that often... but when we do we still get along and everything and sometimes it's like we saw each other much more recently. I guess it's kind of hard to have rules when you're not really together all that often. What could you do, after all? You already won't speak for months and when you do meet up again most things will have been forgotten...

Er, I guess there is the infamous "don't say shit about friends you're arguing with" rule, though. That's been brought up a few times. Makes the rest of us stick together.

sup, Steal?

Yeah, I've got friends. There are no rules to the friendship. There are very few people that I consider close friends. For them, I'd say they are people that I could count on.

Tough question and entirely dependant on how you define the word friend. I'm not the most socially adept person (not by a long way), but I have several "friends". Honestly though I often ask what friendship means to me and to others; what do we get out of friendship.

"But friendship is about giving, not what you can take" I hear people say, because we all "enjoy" giving. We be kind to someone and we get thanks, we offer emotional support, we get admiration.

We can dress up friendship however we want; we can say that it's what makes us human, because that makes us feel better, and while I do appreciate friendship and comunity (especially from you guys here ), to me what friendship really boils down to in the end is the facilitation of our own egos.

I have few friends. These are people I will die for. Everyone else is just someone I know.

Do you have them? What are the rules to your friendships?

Yes. I don't have many except for don't be a jerk/prick/douche/bitch.

@SD - how many more post do you need before you bring up the point that you were going to make?