Thread: What Things Do You Look For And Avoid In A Lover?

Have you ever took the time to truly consider the things that you actually value in a potential mate? Not just the simple "I like that. I like that too" effect; but specific details.

So I ask you: What do you really want in a lover?

Secondly, what are things that you can't see yourself tolerating in the same potential person? What things would be the proverbial deal-breakers for you? Try to think of things that aren't simply opposites to the things you've said. Try to think of things that are very explicit.


I'll start and get the ball rolling.

Likes:
1. Open and flexible spiritual, political, and philosophical views.
2. Compassionate and nurturing tendencies.
3. Co-dependency and gratitude.
4. Effort to enjoy life and experiences therein.
5. Curiosity and a hunger for change.

Dislikes:
1. Temper tantrums.
2. Gender role obsession.
3. Attitude of entitlement of material things.
4. Trivializing intimacy.
5. Acceptance of fate.

Finally, as an optional ending note: What physical thing will simply turn you off from someone you otherwise are attracted to? Anything is fine. Petty is expected here.

Me? I can't be attracted to people with "natural red hair." (Be it genes or from a bottle.)

I hate Terasiel

I want a wild thing that makes my heart sing....
A girl who is crazy and is willing to do anything I am willing to do.

Something that turns me off is learning that the girl has a blog, and that she updates it more than once a month....Also, if the person doesn't share a disdain for Ann Coulter I get turned off too.

Likes:
1. Optimistic or idealistic traits that uplift (especially because I'm rather pessimistic).
2. Resilience.
3. Liberal views.
4. A little bit sarcastic.
5. A little silly.

Dislikes:
1. Self-centered people.
2. Passive-aggressiveness.
3. Unforgiving nature.
4. Vindictiveness.
5. Ditziness/Stupidity

A girl that is willing to do ass to mouth.

I don't want to have to say "i love you" a fucking hundred times a day.

I also hate the "OMG poor meh, i suffer so much".

Just take it off already.

Likes:
1. Responsibility
2. Sense of Humor

Dislikes:
1. Forgetful -_-;
2. (agree with Urameshi-sama) Passive-agressiveness

As for physical: I like a guy with glasses... :X

Likes:
- Drive(as in motivation, not vehicle driving xD)
- A sense of being 'laid back' when the time calls for.
- Dependability.
- Wit-dorkiness balance.
~ Having a roughly similar music taste is also a big plus...

Dislikes:
- Egocentricity.
- Vapidness, dullness.
- Culturally limited, unskilled person.

As for physical attributes, a not overdone hippie/bohemian look is quite appealing...On the other hand, I'd say 'man-hands' and abnormal accumulations of adipose tissue are major turn offs.

abnormal accumulations of adipose tissue

That's a beautiful euphemism.

Likes: Nothing in particular

Dislikes: A lot of things

In a nutshell: Just not interested