Thread: Beauty (Part Deux)

To quote Little Miss Sunsine. "Fuck a lot of woman, not just a few." Jking. Really Steal, you shouldn't worry about getting turned down by a girl. Ask a few out to low pressure date to a Zoo(Brooklyn,Bronx or CP). This way there is a intent,but not such a big gamble.

Edit.

Sorry, I am guessing the thread isn't about you....Yeah right.

FYI this thread isn't about me its about the idea.

Originally Posted by be0wulf

It's also not fair to you.

If you go through life trying to make everyone happy, you may be hailed as a saint but you're gonna be leading a pretty miserable life.

I have purely selfish ambitions. Its not really about being fair to her, its about unwittingly limiting my possibilities based on superficial criteria.

Originally Posted by dizzcity

Coming from a slightly different point of view, my question in reply would be: how long do you define a "potential relationship prospect"? If it's for life, then consider the following question: Would you still be willing to wake up to the face of that girl in 50 years' time? People's looks may not change that much in 2-3 years (which seems to be the average length of relationships among youth and young adults nowadays, sad to say...), but try imagining the 60-year-old face of every attractive girl you see, and then reconsider why you are attracted to her.

-Dizzy-

I don't enter short term relationships. None are for life but I wouldn't really enter one I knew was not going to last.

PS. This thread isn't about me. Its about the idea.

Originally Posted by MadDogMike

3. If you happen to get to know some other girls along the way who are not so physcially attractive but they have nice personalities, you may grow to like one of them and decide to be with them instead.

...more worried about passing one by than meeting someone on a ancillary situation. Of course I can't and won't know if that ever happens and its very pointless to worry about it yet I do... and it affects my future. Hence my dilemma.

PS. This thread isn't about me its about the idea.
PPS. The idea is missing out on opportunity because you were blinded by superficial characteristics.

Originally Posted by StealDragon

The short reason is its superficial.

Can you think of a less superficial immediate criteria for people you know nothing about?

And who's to say she's judging you by your personality and not your looks? I'm not going to tell you to make decisions solely on looks but most people do use it as a criteria.

Well Steal, if homely girls with saint-like personalities are your things...go for it.

Originally Posted by StealDragon

Thats not fair to her, she didn't choose how she looks or what society or I define as attractive.

I do not remember love/attraction being supposed to be fair. I understand your point mate but, being attracted to good-looking people is normal. It'd be a completely different thing if looks would be the only thing you care about.

I'll be honest with you, unless the personality of a person completely mesmerises me, chances are, if I do not like that person's physical appearance, I wouldn't be interested in that person. Call me a jerk if you must but, that's how things are.

What's wrong with judging ppl by their looks? What else can you judge them by before you really get to know them? Obviously good looks and great personality is ideal. Personally for me it's like 60/40(Personality/Looks). Looks are great for about two week until you realize that's all that person has. A great personality doesn't get old.

Originally Posted by StealDragon

I don't do one night stands. Thats it exactly though, how am I supposed to find the best personality if thats the most important trait and I'm dividing and conquering based on looks? Should I just settle for someone attractive with a great personality if according to our logic someone less attractive with a perfect personality should be ... well... perfect?

As dizzcity said, if one is after a long-term relationship, one should think in the long-term. Which girl would you be happier with after fifty years?

Originally Posted by StealDragon

Middle ground!

That's kinda ineffective if you're trying to create a contrast.

Originally Posted by StealDragon

PPS. The idea is missing out on opportunity because you were blinded by superficial characteristics.

Y'know, as stated, there isn't much to discuss about this particular idea. It's obvious that it's a bad thing to miss out on an opportunity, and that's what the consensus will end in.

I think you need to redefine the question a bit. What are you really trying to ask here?

Originally Posted by mystic_guard_sinoel

Can you think of a less superficial immediate criteria for people you know nothing about?

Why not slow down a bit and get to know a person before passing judgement?

Originally Posted by mystic_guard_sinoel

And who's to say she's judging you by your personality and not your looks? I'm not going to tell you to make decisions solely on looks but most people do use it as a criteria.

Just because many people do something doesn't automatically mean that it's a good thing to do.

Steal is pretty.

And no, attractiveness is present for certain reasons. For instance, it was found that women were attracted to men based on how their smelled for immunity reasons. Women were blindfolded and then told to smell several men. Once this was done they were asked to say which they found most attractive based on smell alone. When the pair was then studied it was discovered that the women had chosen men with immunities they did not have, and those immunities would be passed onto a child if the couple were to reproduce.
Although to be honest I'd prefer the person I like to be hot. And ugly girls can be damn mean.

And reading the dictionary is fun.


Also Steal is pretty.

Originally Posted by Saizou

Just because many people do something doesn't automatically mean that it's a good thing to do.

I agree but, I think Sinoel's point was that, for most people, the catch is in looks. After you've been physically attracted to someone, you'll try to get to know that person (assuming you're interested) and, based on his/her/its (??? ) personality you'll decide whether you want to start a relationship with that person or not. I'm not saying that's the only way in which people fall in love, just that it happens to be the most common. It is not wrong since personality still plays the most important role, in the end.

Meh, as many people have already said: appearances are first impressions. If your first impression of someone is good, chances are you'll actually interact said person, so naturally, you'd go for the hot ones.