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....ok all jokes aside...
so my friend just broke up with his gf...actually she broke up with him. She said she didnt have feelings for him anymore...etc....but it seems likely that she was actually starting to see another guy. So yeah, in essence cheating...
and so i talked to him a bunch and he asked me if it's wrong to move on quickly. I personally said "no, its fine to move on quickly and better imo....as long as u dont act irrationally."
so my question is, is it ok to move on quickly if the relationship you just came out of wasn't your fault? Like the break up wasn't your fault....and u did give it ur all in the relationship.
Well it depends on the relationship. I don't think who does the breaking up matters in most relationships, but rather how long they were together and how found of each other they were.
From the sounds of it, though, I'd say, yeah, it was ok.
they went out for a little over a year.
as for breaking up...i mean sure she declared it off....but i mean pretty much he just sat there and she did what the heck she wanted too. He tried in the relationship, he gave effort (hell....my friends and myself always picked on him for fun becuz of how much he did for her), but then she pulls something like this on him.
Well aside from the instant connotation that shes a conniving bitch taking advantage of a nice guy... Yeah. Personally I don't do it, but I don't see any real wrong in getting back in the game as soon as a relationship is off. Its personal preference and if you feel ok with it and you don't regret what you're going to do then sure, go for it.
Well, my girlfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I agree because I was thinking in doing it.
But, despite that I was thinking that I still mis her sometimes. I mean, we were together for 6 monts and she was my first serious love. Even if I didnt love her animore it stills hurts a little.
Anyways, where I'm going it that is okay to move on quickly but if you really feel something for the pearson it's gona hurt and it's not gonna be easy.
Yeah, its okay to start going out right after words, but i dont believe one should do it as means to get over your ex. If he gets in a new relationship he should treat it as getting in a new relationship, no rebounds, i dont believe in rebound dates. The next person could be a better love match, aka not a bitch.
Tell your friend not to lie to himself.
Everyone knows it's good to move on, fast or slow.
The fact that you've MOVED ON is a good thing. You don't need to ask anyone if it's right. Of course it is!
I don't think your friend moved on just yet. I don't think it's that easy or fast to move on when you love someone that much to a fact that it makes people jealous/make-fun-of-you.
But this is where you can come on deuce22 to help him. The fact you've posted this must mean you care a lot for him, so be sure to help much as you can!!! (if you're not already) and be SURE that he knows you're giving it your best to help him. Maybe then, he'll understand life is much better with you (plus other friends I hope) around ;) Then really move on.
Anyways, that's my view. I don't know the situation 100% so I may be wrong myself, but o well. I typed this much, I'm not going to backspace all of this...!
But I'm sure it'll work out. Positive Attitude FTW. :D
If at first you don't succeed keep trying. But I think it's better to give the last dead realtionship a suitable period of mourning so the person isn't hooking up with someone new on the rebound. That isn't fair to anyone because the memories of what happened to bring the last relationship to an end are still too fresh in memory and can affect how someone thinks of an treats someone new.
You go out with someone who has bounced from one failed relationship to another and they can be carrying a heavy load of negative emotional baggage around with them. Their attitude seems weighted towards expecting the worst from someone new and it can be an uphill fight to win their trust and get them to lower their guard.
You mean, should he intentionally wallow in his misery when he could be moving on?
I think it would depend on what the context for "moving on" is. If with moving on he means to just keep on with his life, and not to keep on wallowing, I think that would be the best idea. If moving on means getting with just any chick right away, I wouldn't know. It is not as if a person should always be involved in a romantic relationship, isn't it? If he happens to actually fall in love with another girl right away, that would be different. All the same, little can do the one that didn't experience the lost, is it not?