Thread: Now Hiring!

Originally Posted by deuce22

I'm now hiring for a full time working girlfriend. Please send applications to my PM box. My preferences are: 2 years of age up or down of my own, friendly, fun, talkative. Don't be shy now!

....ok all jokes aside...

so my friend just broke up with his gf...actually she broke up with him. She said she didnt have feelings for him anymore...etc....but it seems likely that she was actually starting to see another guy. So yeah, in essence cheating...

and so i talked to him a bunch and he asked me if it's wrong to move on quickly. I personally said "no, its fine to move on quickly and better imo....as long as u dont act irrationally."

so my question is, is it ok to move on quickly if the relationship you just came out of wasn't your fault? Like the break up wasn't your fault....and u did give it ur all in the relationship.

Wow. you're asking such a random question...

are you asking it cause you feel guilty in some way? =P

not guilty for anything. He's one of my best friends....and actually he asked me that same question....so it just piqued my curiosity on how other would reply to that same question.

He'll live. I don't think that moving on too fast is a bad thing if the relationship wasn't healthy to begin with. Since when did it matter about who breaks up with who? It's more about the issue that caused it. What exactly do you mean by "give it your all"?

like he actually devoted A LOT of his time to her...he gave a lot of effort for the relationship to work despite the problems that occurred. Say an argument happened...for the greater good he ALWAYS took the blame for it....or he always accepted that it was his fault.....regardless of what happened.

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anyway from what most of my friends do (I don't have as much experience when it comes into stuffs like this =_=). If the person who got broken off with is very devoted. From the sound of it he is VERY devoted. They usually don't go into a new relationship as quickly as possible. It is possible that he's not over it and he's just convincing himself that he is and that he wants to move as soon as possible just to forget her.

As they say "Time heal all wounds". Tell him to try being single and enjoy it for awhile but if your friend do find someone he wants to be serious with and not just because he want to move on and forget his ex. then ask him to spend time with them first and see....

Well, like everyone said: it really depends.

Personally, I give myself and the girl some dignity by waiting a while before "moving on" to another girl. I mean, if you just jump to another girl all of a sudden, it makes you look like a frivolous player and you make your relationship with her seem frivolous and not as "serious" as it might have been. But of course, if this is true, then no point in hiding it, right?

Getting over it quickly is good, better than good really.

Most people would at least take a break from a relationship after getting out of one but I guess if it didn't affect you that much, you could go for it. But don't do it just becuz you're trying to get back at them. Or because you need comfort or someone by your side, that's what friends are for.

Originally Posted by deuce22

like he actually devoted A LOT of his time to her...he gave a lot of effort for the relationship to work despite the problems that occurred. Say an argument happened...for the greater good he ALWAYS took the blame for it....or he always accepted that it was his fault.....regardless of what happened.

regardless of what happened? For what greater good? Nothing good comes out of spoiling your girlfriend. Sounds like he was whipped.

when someone breaks up with u, it means they don't want to spend time with you, they don't want to care about you, and they find u annoying. He shouldn't feel bad. He is lucky to not be in some false relationship.

Originally Posted by kawaiisan

when someone breaks up with u, it means they don't want to spend time with you, they don't want to care about you, and they find u annoying. He shouldn't feel bad. He is lucky to not be in some false relationship.

That's not always true. People break up for many different reasons.