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    adonai is offline Senior Member Community Builder
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    Quote Originally Posted by rabidfuzzybunny View Post
    The marriage in India looks like it was an arrangement between the parents. If he bride only saw her intended groom at formal meetings and there was no casual relationship or love involved, it might not have mattered that much to her whether she married the groom or his brother because she had little emotional attachment to either of them.
    I'm told that arranged marriages tend to work out better anyways because both parties tend to expect less of each other...

    Now, to apply that principle to life...

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    ^The funny thing is that it is true. Everyone criticizes arranged marriage because it isn't initially based off of love, yet their divorce rates are so much lower.
    Not that I'm a supporter of arranged marriage (I'm not, I do like the loved-based marriage idea).

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    I'm guessing that arranged marriages have lower divorce rates because couples feel obligated to stay together. It's like something that they bare because it's like their duty. Couples that get married for love get divorced when they don't feel like dealing with each other.

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    Urameshi-sama is offline Senior Member Community Builder
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    ^Partially. Because the people who have arranged marriages do feel more inclined to stay together, they make more of a cooperative effort to create love and a family. They have to be a little more open-minded to even make the marriage work, and that allows their marriage to survie longer later.

    People who have love-marriages selecrted each other because they were compatible with each other and didn't think they'd have to change their relationship drastically once they got married. Thus the less tolerance to change.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erachima View Post
    Well, would you turn her down?
    Don't know how unique this perspective is, but I think my brother is a certifiable asshole, so of course I'd screw him over in a heartbeat by making a play for the teenage bride (if she was attractive).

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    Quote Originally Posted by adonai View Post
    I'm told that arranged marriages tend to work out better anyways because both parties tend to expect less of each other...

    Now, to apply that principle to life...
    Perhaps there's also an element of duty in arranged marriages that keeps less than compatable people together over the long term because the parents played a major role in making the marriage happen. If the husband or wife at some point reach a conclusion that their marriage isn't working out and they want a divorce...what will their parents who arranged that marriage think about this turn of events? The parents could take this as a show of disrespect towards them and there could be unpleasant consequences. Like the son or daughter being written out of the parents Will and they get nothing when the parents die. That could be a powerful incentive for the couple to keep up the pretense in public that their marriage is working out great...while in private the couple might be barely on speaking terms and each has their own discrete little affairs for sex and companionship.

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    +1, arranged marriages often end up as being only economically driven => both the husband and wife live (a part of) their sexual life outside their relationship, and only stay together for economical and "cultural" reasons

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    Quote Originally Posted by shautieh View Post
    option 2 : the brother got his wedding brother wasted so he could get a chance to marry the girl
    Option 3: The bride gave the groom a LOT of alcohol before the wedding (supplied by the loving brother ofcourse XD)

 

 
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