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    deuce22 is offline Senior Member Community Builder
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    Default long distance relationships

    i'm not in one, but i'd just like to know what ppl's opinion in them are. Do you think they are possible, etc, etc.

    Well from what i know, i guess it's possible, becuz...

    A. my sister and husband are working out fine. He's in iraq right now..they talk whenever.

    B. one of my best friends was in one for like 3 years...but i forgot why they broke up...hahaha...dunno if i should be putting this as a reason for it being possible...but yeah.

    maybe after lots and lots trust and stuff maybe it's possible? Also maybe it's cuz i'm the type to always think positive...i always see the cup "half full" rather than "half empty."

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    there was a thread like this before.


    on a more topic related note: I believe they can work out.
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    The girl I like lives a block away and goes to a different school. Would you define that as long distance?


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    one word... commitment.

    If you're committed to it and have beyond complete trust in the person and she/he has the same for you, it will work... but if either of you has a shadow of a doubt then you're fucked. The paranoia will get you and you will not be able to cope. Not only that the chances that the person youre with is the person you're meant to spend your life with or even the next ten minutes with is less than zero.a Like Becky said, theres always someone better out there.


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    i did a quick search, didnt find anything...

    @mystic...ahaha...no, cuz u could see her whenever...ahaha

    but yeah, i mean still, even in CLOSE distance relationships there is always "doubt," so i believe it's unfair to say that...but yeah, of course the trust plays a big part. But i think what plays a big role is that you both have to same goals, and also understand each persons individual goals.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StealDragon View Post
    one word... commitment.

    If you're committed to it and have beyond complete trust in the person and she/he has the same for you, it will work... but if either of you has a shadow of a doubt then you're fucked. The paranoia will get you and you will not be able to cope. Not only that the chances that the person youre with is the person you're meant to spend your life with or even the next ten minutes with is less than zero.a Like Becky said, theres always someone better out there.
    I disagree, working through doubt and fighting can make a relationship, any relationship stronger. If you can work through your doubt it makes things so much sweeter too. Commitement IS important, but you can be terrified and still commited.

    To doubt is human, to worry, to be paranoid and scared. That's why you have friends and bf/gf... so that they can help you through it, or be there right along side you showing you you're not alone.

    If you don't doubt, you're taking too much for granted.


    EDIT: and yeah.. we've had this thread before...

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    Quote Originally Posted by silverwmoon View Post
    I disagree, working through doubt and fighting can make a relationship, any relationship stronger. If you can work through your doubt it makes things so much sweeter too. Commitement IS important, but you can be terrified and still commited.

    To doubt is human, to worry, to be paranoid and scared. That's why you have friends and bf/gf... so that they can help you through it, or be there right along side you showing you you're not alone.

    If you don't doubt, you're taking too much for granted.


    EDIT: and yeah.. we've had this thread before...
    sorry sorry...like i said, i searched with the key words "long distance relationship" and didnt find anything.

    but wow, good stuff u wrote...great points u brought up.

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    Of course, long distance relationships are possible. It just depends on the attitude going into it. It is not a question if it is possible, but rather if you are willing to put the work into it. That goes for any relationship. It's just harder with distance.

    I was in a long distance relationship, it didn't last, but I now know that i'm capable of being in one. Friends were a good support system, but at the same time they can do harm. But if you really like the person and more importantly they treat you right, go for it.

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    depends on the couple, if they're good at communicating with each other. If not...it will end soon.

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    Add a poll.

    Yes they can work. It just depends on the faithfulness and commitment of the person. A reason why long distance relationships fail is because of humanity. Humans will always have doubt and distrust people, even a little at all times. With long distance relationships, that doubt and distrust can easily grow since there's no way you can be sure they aren't cheating on your or anything. So basically, yes they can work. But do they work most of the time? No. You need to be either a fool, have a very strong commitment/bond, or have faith and believe to really keep and maintain the relationship, though there could be other factors to keep and maintain the relationship.
    Last edited by Hanul; 01-25-2007 at 02:14 PM.

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